Dance with Life

One of the best books I've ever read is called End the Struggle and Dance With Life by Susan Jeffers.  How many times do we try to fight what is.  We try to stop, change, ignore, deny the things that are going on in our life.  This book opened my eyes to another way of thinking.

I loved this quote so much I put it on a 3x5 card and stuck it to my mirror.  It helped me to have these words in my mind throughout the day.

"It's all happening perfectly.  Whatever happens in my life, I'll handle it.  I'll learn from it.  I'll make it a triumph!"

"While none of us understands the grand design, we can commit to using all our experiences, good or bad, as the building blocks of a powerful and loving life.  Then it is indeed, all happening perfectly!!"

"Let go and stop hanging on to the way it is "supposed" to be.  The only thing we can effectively control is our reactions to whatever life hands us."

I like to say that I'm a recovering perfectionist.  These quotes helped me so much when I was learning about the anxiety it caused me to have a  constant "perfect" expectation for myself and my life.  It was so stressful and exhausting to continually try to make myself perfect.  I finally gave it up and realized I will never be perfect and who the hell cares if my car isn't perfectly clean??  What difference does it make in the grand scheme of life whether my bed is made or not?!  No, I'm not a slob, but I do not let myself get bent out of shape if things aren't "perfect".  It's too exhausting and I'm learning to be nicer to myself and forgive myself if things aren't in complete order.  I had to fight that because I used to be a freak about my drawers always being organized, my hangers in order, ect... but I've let it go and I feel so free!!!

----JADE-----