Ugh.... just reading that sentence makes me a little nervous. Who wants to fail at anything?? I'm sure no one wants to, but seeing that we are HUMAN, failing is inevitable. In my mind the opposite of perfection is failure, which is why it's so hard to except the fact that I will fail at certain things in my life.
I just got married and I've noticed that my perfectionism has increased. I want to be the perfect wife, but what does that even mean? I want my husband to be completely satisfied and happy with our marriage. If we even get in a little argument, it really affects me and I usually blame it on myself. I'm learning that even if he has a bad day it's NOT my fault. If he's unhappy about something, it doesn't always have to do with me. Also, I need to remember that if we do get into a disagreement, he still loves me and he's not going to be miserable because of it. I need to apply my feelings for him to myself. Because I have never wished that I wouldn't have married him, quite the opposite, there is not a day that goes by that I am not completely grateful that I have found my soulmate to go through life with. I am thankful that I have a man that loves me and has chosen me to be his wife forever. I need to trust that even though I'm not perfect I'm still the girl he would chose over and over.
Dr. F gave me some great insights as to why failure can actually be a good thing...
* It gives you a new perspective on yourself and everything else you can do. Falling and picking yourself up to find that the world hasn't ended can be liberating!
* If gives you the freedom and motivation to strike our in still more and more untried directions.
* If gives you a better understanding of others. Whenever you try something outside your own realm, you can't help looking differently at people who know things you don't know and can do things you can't do.
* It gives you permission to do less than your best at something else- and something else after that.
* It teaches you that there are degrees of accomplishment- that it's not an all-or-nothing proposition. You don't have to be the best to learn something and have fun.
* It teaches you that not succeeding can be normal, necessary, even desirable.
------JADE-------
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